I did this temperament chart for a homework assignment in one of my child development and parenting classes. I found it so interesting I thought you all might like to do one on your own kids. It might give us some insight as to why they do what they do and how to help them develop their own means of controlling themselves.

There are nine indicators of temperament.

•Activity level •Biological rhythms •Approach or withdraw •Adaptability

•Mood •Intensity of reaction •Sensitivity •Distractibility •Persistence

The chart below is based on these indicators. Print this whole section and then take some time to fill it out according to where you believe your child is most of the time. There are three basic temperament types that are indicated by this chart. Keep in mind that temperament is inborn and this fact will let us recognize and accept our children's differences rather than try to change them. Take the chart and mark the boxes according to what you would say your child has as an indicator of temperament. Are they highly active or not? Are they very persistent or not? If the boxes checked line up mostly with the five, that may indicate a more feisty temperament. If the boxes checked line up mostly with the one, that may indicate a more flexible temperament. Fearful is somewhere in between.

Flexible is the most common type. Children of this type usually have regular rhythms, positive moods and are quick to adapt. They have low intensity and low sensitivity, and are able to independently entertain themselves with only an occasional check by the parent or provider. They do, however, need special time set aside on a pretty regular basis for one on one interaction and personal attention from the parent or provider.

Fearful or timid types make up about 15% of children. They tend to be slow to adapt, withdraw rather than approach, and very cautious. They need regularity and consistency. Familiar and stable environments are also important to this type.

Feisty or difficult types make up about 10% of all children. They are usually active, intense, distractible, sensitive, irregular and moody. This type should be prepared ahead of time for changes in their lives or environment. Make the most of quiet moments with this type. Also provide vigorous play environments. They often respond well to empathy, redirection or distraction when you are trying to stop inappropriate behavior.

Whatever a child’s temperament, try some of the following suggestions when trying to stop inappropriate or negative behavior. Remember the catch phrase, ask-tell-yell, when responding to an action or behavior you want your child to stop. Try each step first before going to the next.

Or try to remember your C.H.O.I.C.E.S.

In addition, it may be helpful to do a chart on yourself and/or you spouse. It will help you recognize the differences and similarities between you and your child. We may be more like our children than we are willing to admit and the chart may help us recognize that. It should help us all come up with strategies which will enable us all deal with our children and their various and wonderful temperaments. Let me know what you think.